But aren’t we being a little over sensitive at times? I’m talking about the latest feminism hoo-har on the internet, where London Weight Management showed this video where it seems to suggest that fatter woman won’t make it in society.

I agree its demeaning, and LWM should just be shot for this advertisement, but woah let’s just be less hostile towards it yeah? Just to bring up food for thought, I wondered, isn’t it demeaning for the men as well?

I mean, hey it portrays men as such figure-only people that we judge people’s working abilities by their size, and stop loving our women because she isn’t that stick thin like other women. Hey, we are not that shallow alright? If you are going to open your mouth to say “isn’t it true that looks play a factor?”, just shut it cause women do it to us men too.

I’m not going to degrade this post into a post where I belittle feminism or try to stroke for men-ism, but let’s just think of it this way: when we feel outraged, I think its better not to view every single thing as sexist. There’s always the other side of the coin.

Just the other day our former minister mentor asked a female phd student if she has a boyfriend and all hell broke loose. Is it sexist to ask that? Sometimes I wonder, had it been a male phd student, would he have been asked whether he had a girlfriend? Would Mr Lee similarly advise him to get one? With the situation being dire, that we are marrying later or not at all, and not producing babies fast enough, perhaps they are trying to get everyone to be more focused on building families. So why is it sexist?

Then AWARE said something which puzzled me. That the fact we have less paternity leave signifies that society views women as the primary caregiver, and hence the feminist women is still relevant in fighting for such rights?

I wouldn’t mind having more paternity leave, but how is that a strong reason to show we are a sexist society? From the friends around me, I discovered that most of us don’t bother whether our future wives know how to cook, or whether they are going to work or stay home. Society seems to be liberal enough that we condition ourselves to care for our kids as well.

Or is AWARE not aware of why maternity leave need to be that long? I am not a women, neither have my close friends given birth recently, but isn’t giving birth a tiring process where the female needs more rest to recover in comfort? The men, on the other hand, only needs to accompany their wives in the delivery segment; they can very well be fit to even take IPPT the next day!

Alright so my point is this: the feminism movement needs to tone down a little and fight for areas where women are indeed being looked down upon or not taken care enough. It should not be a movement to push women’s rights beyond men, not that I think it is doing so at the moment. But to tell the truth, sometimes we men feel disadvantaged. With the woman’s charter and all, we feel: if the woman wants to be equal, then be equal. Not that “all animals are equal but some animals are more equal than others”, if you get what George’s saying.